Living in own house is totally different ...

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A 9-year old girl to her grandpa: " My mom (his daughter) always says, you are very strict in etiquettes and made your wife & children to adhere blindly. "

Gpa: "  My dad was very strict and imposed so many things. No doubt, what I am today is those strictness. But I am very liberal to my kids but strict on certain principles. "

Girl: " For past one week, I am observing the happenings here.  Your strictness are buried deeply and the etiquetts are just hanging on the walls."

Gpa: " Explain. Quote incidents. "

Girl: " Mo Aunty (his daughter-in-law) Cooks food without taking bath; Eats all kind of foods at all times; Sits cross-legged before the elders including you; Never informs you when she goes out.  Jo Aunty (another daughter-in-law) Wears only jeans & tees; Every alternate day goes out to eat at friends' place; Never does household work; When at home, watches TV any serials any movies; Lot of friends are coming to see her at home. Cho uncle (his son-in-law) Walks with chappals allover the house including kitchen; on holidays sleeps upto noon; Eats without bath; at times smokes openly in the presence of elders and children. My mom (his daughter) also tells a lot of things on them. She says that if you come to know those things you will run away from the house. "

Gpa: " I am noticing all the things you narrated. But I can't help it. My hands are tied. I repeat my dad's words. I LIVED IN MY HOME WITH MY CHILDREN AND HENCE I FRAMED RULES AND ALSO MY CHILDREN RESPECTED MY WORDS. For the reasons known to them, my parents live with my sister. My dad too experiences akward moments there and at times he gets strokes due to high bllod-pressure. He is not able to digest things happenig there. I simply quote one happening. My father hates drinking & smoking to the core. My sister's husband drinks at home itself in the presence of my parents. And eats non-veg food during that hours. The beauty is my sis hubby's father also joins him for drinking. Just imagine my fathers's plight.  I am also referring the same words of my father's. When I lived in my home with my children, I imposed those etiquettes and my children obeyed me blindly. But now, I am staying in my children house and I have no rights to impose on their spouses and children. "

Girl: " Then be independant. Go back to your home and live happily. Visit your children whenever you intend to spend time with them. "
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Overheard the above convo when I was sitting in the lobby of an Villament where I had been to look for a one.

A Nethiadi. An eye-opener. Is it a fore-warning from the Divine Mother (through the girl)?

On specific grounds, I live with my sons at their place. The feeling of living in my own house is totally different and Living in my own space is the true unadulterated happiness. I am being overwhelmed by an unbearable feeling of separateness, at a very deep level.

My own home, it is the one with character and its own oddities. Eagerly awaiting the day to migrate back to my lovely home.